I Think I'll Pick A Fight

Why do people pick fights when they're tired or hungry?

Doesn't that sound like the absolute worst thing to do when you're tired or hungry; go and make the situation that much worse by making someone mad at you?

My Special Man Friend ("MSMF") decided to pick a fight Saturday after work. Not only was the poor bastard up at 5am but he fought 2 hours of traffic after work to get home. In the heat. With no air conditioner. Did I mention that he was also hangry?

Now, most people that know me would not encourage anyone, and I mean ANYONE, to start a fight with me. But this guy rolled in hot, guns loaded. Like Michael Jackson, homeboy was lookin' to be startin' somethin' - yeah yeah.

And sadly I took the bait. Well, kind of.

It's tough when someone is snappy. On the one hand you want to give them the benefit of the doubt or just take the high road but on the other hand, shit. You're probably in the same boat. Every person has their chores and worries and work bullshit and family drama. Blah blah blah. The point is that everyone has it. And if your own particular bullshit is getting too overwhelming or imbalanced, I believe it's up to that person to at the very least say something. People are not fucking mind readers and I'm not Miss Cleo, "yeah man". I come from the practical, hard knock camp of belief that you should do something about your grievances.

I engage to a certain point in an argument and then things will go in one of two directions; I either stay in the ring until the job is down or I get to a point where I just throw in the towel and walk away. I did a little bit of both with MSMF. Ultimately there's no honor in fighting with someone that you love. And that you know loves you.

There's always room to do better. Communicate more. Let stupid shit go. Love a little harder.

It's easy to get caught up in the details but what's the point? I think what matters more is to have heard or to have said "I love you" rather than some dumb shit you're probably going to feel bad about later.

So before you walk into a situation and pour gasoline all over it and yourself, as these important questions:

Am I tired?

Am I hungry?

Am I being shitty and need to check my attitude?